-April 22nd, 2020-
The uncertainty over the virus, the constant worry of physical distancing to stay safe, when will the gym be able to open again, what’s the new normal going to look like etc. Not being able to hang out with my friends and family freely.
I was just tired of it all. I was depressed.
Then I saw one of my favourite books. It was in the pile of books my wife has on her nightstand to read.
The book is called MINDSET by Carol Dweck. The main thesis of the book is there are 2 types of Mindsets, Fixed or Growth.
Fixed mindset thinks things are out of their control. That they can’t improve.
If they’re a C student, they’ll always be a C student. If you’re overweight, that you’re just overweight and can’t improve. If you’re a slow skater/runner that you can’t get faster.
Growth Mindset is the opposite. You are capable of anything. You can improve by learning. You can train to be faster. You can lose weight. You can do anything your mind wants.
It’s a great book but where it relates to now is I realized everything is a choice, and I have the power to make that choice.
So I can be depressed at the unknown of how long this will be, that I can’t go to the gym, that I can’t train all our athletes, that I’m stuck indoors non stop except to walk the dog in freezing cold weather.
Or I can choose to embrace it and be happy. And it only takes one word to make that change.
Changing “have” to “get” works for almost anything.
I don’t “have” to walk the dog, I “get” to walk the dog.
I don’t “have” to stay home from work, I “get” to stay home from work.
I mean, when am I ever going to be able to stay home with my wife and dog this long again in my life until I retire? So should I be upset about it, or make the most of it?
There’s going to be a time in July (hopefully sooner) where I’ll be training people 6 days/week, starting 9am and sometimes not getting home till 10pm. Multiple days a week. Those weeks I’ll barely see my wife and dog.
Those weeks I’ll be begging to go back to a day like today.
So while we have this forced on us, let’s make the best of it. Let’s always make the best of everything.
COVID19 is going to keep us in for longer, and even when we return the new normal won’t be what we were used to. And all that is out of our control.
So we can choose to be upset and miserable during that time, or we can choose to be happy and enjoy the little things.
Me sulking around the house isn’t going to open the gym any quicker. All it’ll do is make things worse.
So I’m going to enjoy all these dog walks, the not driving in rush hour traffic, the making great new meals for dinner.
Find something you enjoy. Enjoy the little things we take for granted. Change your Mindset and change your life! Remember #LifeIsGood
I highly recommend the book!